7 Fun Ways for Older Siblings to Bond with Baby

It’s every parent’s dream to have kids that are best friends for life. Here’s how to foster that connection early.

For older siblings, there’s a lot to get used to when a new baby comes home. And while you’re likely prepared for the transition during pregnancy or the adoption process, it can still be a shock to kids when the new little person is a crying, gurgling, ever-present reality. Luckily, there are little strategies and rituals you can start at home right away, to make sure the bond between your big and little bubs is formed early, and strengthens over time.

Call the Baby by its Name

Your oldest is no longer the baby of the house, and they might be in their feelings about that loss of status. Make a habit of referring to the new little one by their name, rather than with generic “Baby.” So instead of, “Let’s be quiet, the baby is sleeping,” try “Let’s be quiet, Gemma is sleeping.” For your older child, it will create an identity for the baby that is distinct from their own, rather than one that replaces their position in the family.

Ask Them for Toy Suggestions

Remind your older child that they probably know what their new little might like, since they were that age not too long ago. Ask for their suggestions of songs, stroller toys, books, and more. Let them know that their opinions are valuable, then reinforce it by complimenting them when your baby reacts favorably to a song or toy they recommended.

Make a Box of Outgrown Clothes/Toys/Gear

When it comes to reusing baby clothes, gear, and toys, getting the older sibling’s input is key to making them feel included. Designate a cardboard box as the “baby box,” and invite them to go through their clothing and toys to decide what they’ve outgrown that they’d like to pass along to their younger sib. This way, it won’t feel like so