7 Ways Partners Can Support Nursing Moms

There are many ways to get involved in the magic of feeding your baby, while giving a nursing mom the rest and time she needs.

Breastfeeding can feel like a magical moment between a mother and her baby, where time seems to slow and the world falls out of focus while she nourishes her child. But when a baby is exclusively breastfed, it can feel like the work of feeding falls squarely on one set of shoulders. The truth is, there are many ways a partner can support a nursing mom so she feels cared for and the partner feels actively involved. Sharing the responsibilities strengthens your bond with your baby—and with each other.

If you’re a partner reading this, here are seven practical, meaningful ways to help. If you’re the nursing mama, share this with your partner to start the conversation and get the support you need.

1. Educate yourself

   Even if you’re not breastfeeding or pumping, you’ll be far more helpful if you understand the basics. Read up on latch and positioning, why lanolin helps sore nipples, how hands-free pumps work, and what to know about common issues like infant reflux. Knowledge makes you a better teammate.

2. Be her right hand

   Sometimes support is simple and immediate: pass a tissue or water bottle, grab a snack, reposition pillows, or wrangle the cat off her favorite nursing chair. Keep clean burp cloths and nursing pads stocked and within reach so sessions feel calm and comfortable.

3. Attend appointments together

   Be present for lactation consults, breastfeeding classes, and pediatric visits. Your encouragement matters, and a second set of ears helps remember techniques and tips that can make feeding smoother for everyone.

4. Be an empathetic cheerleader

   Skip the empty pep talks. Offer genuine, specific encouragement—“I see how hard you’re working; I’m proud of you”—especially during tough moments like shallow latches, sore nipples, or missed timing after work. Validate feelings first; then problem-solve together.

5. Provide practical support

   Feeding adds a major responsibility. Proactively take on extra chores, errands, and meal prep so she can rest and recover. Don’t wait to be asked—offer concrete options: “I’ll handle dinner and dishes; do you want a shower or a nap?”

6. Get hands-on with the baby

   If bottles are in the mix, take those feeds so she can recharge. Otherwise, own the adjacent care: burping after feeds, diaper changes, soothing, swaddling, and settling to sleep. These rituals build your bond and make the whole feeding routine feel shared.

7. Withhold judgment and stay flexible

   Plans can change—six months may become three, or combo feeding may make sense. Support her decisions without second-guessing. If a shift is needed, research formula options together and help with a gentle transition so everyone thrives.